I was recently listening to an interview on the radio about how animals are sometimes limited by their environment and it got me thinking… we all know that so many of us aren’t living the life we want because we are living our fears instead. We won’t go for the job we want because we ‘fear’ we will fail, we don’t ask out the person we want to for ‘fear’ of rejection.
So what restrictions are we self imposing under the title of ‘if I do this then I am safe’ or ‘if I don’t try that then I am protected’?
In nature the bumblebee, if dropped into an open glass, will be there until it dies, unless it is taken out. Because it never sees the means of escape at the top, but persists in trying to find some way out through the sides or the bottom. It will seek a way where none exists, until it completely destroys itself.
In many ways people are like the bumblebee. We struggle about with all our problems and frustrations, never realising that we have the ability to not only look around but also upwards, in fact we have no restrictions on our directions of movement other than what we choose to think.
It is often said and it is a fact that we are our thoughts and then the actions we choose to take based on those thoughts. So my question is what age is your thought process? Are you looking at a situation as the adult you have become or do you look at certain situations based upon something that happened in your childhood? Clients are often surprised by the answer when they ask that question of themselves. They find that their sense of security and self worth is based upon what they were taught either by their families as they grew up or at school.
They and their lives have changed since that time but the decision making process is still rooted in the past, is yours?
So next time you have an opportunity arise that you think ‘I can’t take that on’ or ‘I’m not good enough’, think about where that thought is coming from, what is it based on? Fact or the reality that you have created for yourself?
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