So many of the clients that I see live in fear. Fear of being different, fear of being alone, fear of losing their loved ones, fear of being who they really are, fear of ridicule, fear of losing their jobs, fear of heights, fear of flying, fear of cats, fear of vegetables, fear of dogs.

The fears seem to grow and grow, however the root causes for many are very similar. They are the fear to be who they want to be, they are afraid that if they say to their family, friends, work colleagues, I am unhappy, or I want to change the way we do things. That they will be laughed at, mocked, for being different.

Sometimes the fear can start when they are young and an adult told them that they were being silly or stupid about something. That comment, the strength with which it was said can stay with them until adulthood and grow in its strength and “reality” for them.

That doesn’t mean that the adult was necessarily being mean or cruel, there is no judgement in the therapy room, it just means it had more of an impact than either of them realised at the time.

So now as an adult the client is still reacting to the fear of being unique or standing out from the position of a child. They are reacting as they did as a child and of course getting the same responses. So working together we establish what response they would like to have as an adult. Because now as an adult they can make that choice and decision from a more mature and knowledgeable point of view.

As I frequently say to my clients, they are a unique individual, they do their problem in their own unique way, but most of our problems tend to be very similar.

So let your own uniqueness shine through, let it be out there for all to see.

For a no obligation chat please either email or phone me, because it is good to remember that nothing has to be the way it has always been.

Melanie